Losing Someone that Matters!

“It's not what we have in life but who we have in our life that matters” ~Margaret Laurence

And Reading through conversations of someone you lost, someone who mattered, is always painful. When you realize they are happy and complete, and you realize that you are incomplete without them. Some turn around looking for a second chance, some move forward and some stay where they are. Confused, troubled, and struggling to escape, they can’t move neither back nor front. If the person they lost was there with them, they might be happy. But if they go for a second chance, their loved ones might be sad which is not something they will be wanting. But without them, their lives are incomplete. What should they do? Suicidal thoughts, loneliness, anger, loss of purpose of life, depression, hopelessness, and other many feeling haunts them…maybe one by one…maybe all at once. Some hold back from suicide…some fail to and end their lives…few others get lucky and get a second chance in life. For those who are holding back…it seems the whole universe is against them…nothing is right…this feeling of hopelessness hits hard…and this turns to loneliness and maybe depression catches them too… for some who overthink, fear of losing them might have some consequences. Many of these may seem happy or fine and occasionally sad. When you seek the reason, they may say something usual other than the reason for the loss. You may only know if they have lost someone when you have gained their trust. Otherwise, they will seem normal.

 Friends, parents, siblings, or even psychologists or councilors, are all there to help those who think they can’t move forward or feel stuck. Go to someone you trust…speak up to them…let the weight out… and also if you are listening to someone. Let them complete before you say something. Give advice only if they asked to. If you have some similar experience. Share that with them…never compare them to others. Even if you think you can’t help them and they still turn on you…lend an ear…just look at them and listen….even that can make a difference. For everyone goes through difficulty. Whoever you be, wherever you be, we will all go through difficult times… after all life is not just simply living. It is a journey of dilemmas and diversions!

©feelingsfromissam