The Hidden part of Life!

We all have two parts of life…one part which is seen by others and one is hidden from others or very few know about. The first is the one which we feel free to share with our friends or what others see when we go around. Most of that life includes our hobbies, our likes, and dislikes, our ambitions, and for some, this part also includes their fears, their past, and thoughts about their future. The second is our private life. This part of life is rarely shared, either because we have trust issues or we don’t know how to express it in words conveniently for others to understand. Because if others don’t understand what we are saying, they may not know the seriousness of our hidden life. We share this part of life with those whom we trust the most. Hoping they will keep it hidden too. If one knows that their private life is no more private, that can lead to devastating consequences probably. Whether they shared our secret intentionally or not, whether they shared with a person whom they trust or not, it hast be shared. Some might take it as a mistake and forgive, some may take it very seriously and be in rage but still forgive, some may never forgive, and they're even people who maybe become mentally unstable. Sometimes this reaction depends on what has been public. If it was some funny incident, the reaction might be forgiveness. But if it was some embarrassing or incidents like childhood abuse, that probably won’t end in simple forgiveness.

And, it is better not to ask about one’s private, even if they are as close as a sibling to us because it is something not everyone like to share and we can’t say if a certain person likes to share or not, how much open-minded that person is. Usually, we go to therapists or counselors or psychologists to speak openly about our private lives. Because that’s what they do. Sometimes, for some, their friends or siblings of parents could be those who they speak openly. If someone has shared something of their private lives with you, it is because of the trust they give upon you. If you break this trust, it might be tough to get that trust back and gain the trust of others too because the person whose trust was broken, could say that you are not trustworthy. Whether intentionally or not, it will be hard to convince the person you had done it or shared it unintentionally. Sometimes it will be hard for us to trust someone due to this action. We might relate as the person might do just like we did, that is, share our hidden life.

The private part of life is what actually makes us who we are, the scars and memories make up our personality. People often see others based on their experiences and change when they understand that’s not the right way to see people. Just because someone has betrayed doesn’t mean everyone will. Maybe they have been betrayed too…it could be a part of their hidden life. We will never know unless they share or say. But never try to spy and get things out of them because it is called “hidden” or “private” so it should be hidden and only known by themselves!

©feelingsfromissam